The “Passion Paradox” and Why You Have To Be Careful About Believing That You Need One

Think about this for a moment: Why would you ever date someone who is not excited to be with you UNLESS you have recently just “lost your passion?”

See, there’s a grey area in the entrepenuer world that no one seems to talk about. Passion. No one wants to talk about passion.

Just kidding… Every entrepreneur will hit you with the advice of “Just find your passion.” And millions of us cock our heads feeling ambiguous, confused and unsure what are passsions really are. This unsure area causes real, tangible issues.

Is something wrong with me if I don’t love every second of what I’m doing?

Let’s rewind

Now lets say you have a passion. A huge question is often whether to be persistent and continue pursuing this passion even at times when it seems like you’re not loving it anymore.

Sometimes you may believe that you need to quit writing because at times you hate it. Or you need to quit trying to build your clothing company because you spend more time on the phone discussing shipment arrangements than actually designing shirts; the thing you really love.

Much of it gets exceedingly analytical, to the point where sometimes you spend more time analyzing if this is truly the right passion for you.

Frustration with this state of observing turns you to thinking- should I quit or keep on going? Can I drive many people to unnecessary manipulation sales offers?

You see a person whom is selling attractive click batey offers. And you think “I’m never going to sell like that to people. That’s so manipulative.” But the cold hard fact is that you’ll have to do these tricks to people too.

Beware of jumping at the first new shiny red ball that bounces your way. This is where you have to make rules about whether you actually spend more time on your passion or not Because solo- prunuers, not all of them can sell you anything when your in the lowest of the lows with your passion.

These things may seem clever and exciting to some people who are stuck or frustrated.

I mean you wouldn’t buy a dog that bites you all the time. And you wouldn’t be friends with someone who regularly makes you pay for every time he drives you to school even though he’s going there anyways. So why would you try turning your passion into a dream job if you don’t love it anymore? Because passion is the thing you will make love with no matter how long you’ve worked on it or how tired you are.

So what do I Logan?!?!?

The entrepreneur Derek Sivers once wrote a blog post where he said, “If I’m not saying ‘Hell Yeah!’ to something, then I say no.” It served him well in the business world. And because I’m a little more fed up with lie after lie I’m gonna be more frank than Derek is, I’ll label it The Law of “Hell Yes or No.”

The Law of “Hell Yes or No” states that when you want to get involved with a passion, in whatever capacity, it must inspire you to say “Hell Yes.” And the Return of Investment is actually worth it.

Apply The Law of Hell Yes or No when deciding to stay with your passion. You may be a “Hell Yes” for an internship opportunity from someone who gives you a skill in trade for working for free. Double check to see if they are really a good person. Do they regularly give out valuable free content? Be erry if they try to charge for everything they have in their training. Therefore, it could be a no go. It may be a “Hell Yes” in banging away in someone’s coarse if they also offer money back guarantee, but a definite “No” on actually spending with no return. Apply the law of “Hell Yes or No”!to your decision-making as it suits your current needs.

If you suffer from a flux in vulnerability and someone from the internet has a killer YouTube video that makes them look like friggin Batman. Be wary.

This is where I’m gonna have to be blunt with you.

Take the idea of loving a career and throw out the window!!

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The truth that I hate to admit is that there’s not a job that someone likes a 110 percent of. There’s a chance you may hate 30 percent of it. And what’s the deal with finding your “passion?” I mean I would love to eat for a living but after a while comfort foods become uncomfortable indigestion really quickly. The paradox of “finding your passion” and doing it for s living is a marketing scheme that is sold to those in a recent break of what they “thought was their passion.” And now they’re in a position to be taken advantaged of.

And this is the ultimate advice for find your passion comes in whether your man, woman, gay, straight, trans, furry, whatever — the only real finding passion advice is self improvement. Everything else is a distraction, a futile battle in the grey area, a prolonged ego trip. Because, yes, with the right tools and performance, you may be able to pull off the impossible and eat for living,

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But will you really have Won the battle of making money only doing things you love? That’s for you to decide. The best part of all this is you can define for yourself of what a passion is for yourself.

My Passion Definition: Find People around me that are much smarter and more clever then I am that inevitably make me smarter and more clever.

This is a process driven passion  Some passions are so Result oriented  Be a Salesmen. be a writer. Be an actor. For fuck sake- how about selling something, or acting in something or writing something before calling yourself any of those things. It may be best to actually never inherit a title for yourself. It may scare you out of you passsion in into a new one.

 

So let’s say you have nothing  you have no idea where to start. You don’t like anything  and often times it’s a roller coaster of hating yourself more and more Fist, Meet wall!

One trick: scroll through Twitter and shamelessly look for People who are seeking help. Type in the search bar: I Wish I had. The things people wish they had are all mini passion tests for you. If you think you can help with any of these, then reach out and be amazed on the connections you make. This network of friends could be your new tribe that could lead you to a lot of Potetial Passions.

But I’m going to switch back to tough love Father and say this: Every Passion sucks sometimes. There’s no such thing as some passionate activity that you will never get tired of, never get stressed over, never complain about. It doesn’t exist. I am living my dream job (which happened by accident, by the way. I never in a million years planned on this happening; like a kid on a playground I just went and tried it), and I still hate about 30% of it. Some days more.

Now excuse me while I go eat some food. I’ve been trying to hard to find my passion and now I’m as hungry as Matthew McConaghey after he wrapped up with Dallas Buyers Club

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Comment below and let me know if you think passion is an illusion or maybe you’re currently living your passion.

 

 

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